You felt what is was like to have a mate just do enough to keep himself busy (My STBE) never seriously considered even looking for a job. She was a stay home Mom (fine) but demanded better schools which required her to work. She just never put 2 and 2 together until we filed for divorce. Now her animal rescue activities have petered out, and she has all but taken up with another man on the other side of town.
All she did was replace snooks to take care of her. Claiming to stand on her own two feet, I received a call one morning from her BF (we are not divorced yet) chiding me that my change in plans one weekend (it was an emergent situation I felt did not deserve my STBE knowing because she takes off whenever she wants and flate tells me its none of my business).
Now imagine my utter shock at this guys big brass ones: I asked him who he was, and why he was calling. His answer made him sound like a fool. My change of plans was interfering with his weekend with my wife at his house and he was angry at me………..
Alert alert Will Robinson!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! She’s hooked up with a real gorilla (he owns a tree service and is rather on the big side) and feels it’s his right to hop scotch over my wife and deal with me directly. Folks……………does anyone out there believe for one second me, or anyone for that matter, would cave into such threats? She found a “real man” to take care of her this time……….Holy control freak Batman!!!!!!!!! She chose a real winner.

So, in sum, people who don’t pull their weight or who are selfish (maybe your hubby has clinical depression) and do the very bear minimum are (call a spade a spade) slackers.

Most woman get a pass, but men usually do not. I was listening to the radion one night, and a caller (woman) called into confess that since her husband lost a job, through no fault of his, she now thinks him less of a man, and by extention no longer attractive to her.

Woman would rather see their husbands and fathers in armor die on the backs of their white horses, rather then fall off.