Alimony for life…………….what a concept. The wince on my Attorney’s face when I told her she never worked after 21 years sent shivers down my spine. I make a good living AND I was blessed with some significant inherited cash (which is outside of equitable distribution).

I had to play “bat shit” and made it clear that I would rather burn through every dime rather then give her anything “for life.” My Attorney signed onto that and I was very happy the day she put my STBE back on her heels. My wife graduated college with highest honors as a biology teacher and never really bothered to even look for work. Her income was imputed as if she were working, and my child support went down. Meaning the message is she must find work. (I hope your all sitting down reading this part) She is now cleaning houses for cash rather then find work……She did this in high school + babysit. I kid you all not! Proof positive she does not like the serious responsibility of having to be somewhere at a certain time for a specific purpose.

In the end I gave her the house (debt free) half of the retirement savings and some cash to move onto her next victim. Which she wasted ZERO time doing BTW. I mean within less then three months she is now spending all her free time, plus entire weekends with this new guy.

One day we had a disagreement over her insistence I buy our one son a car. I simply said no which erupted into some blathering speech about how I just could not stand that “for once in my life I’m standing on my own two feet.” Did you ever see or hear something so incredible or horrible you simply blanked out? I was literally staggering over how out of touch this woman/child really is. Now she’s “standing on somebody else’s two feet.”
I feel a little sad for the schmuck…….but I’m very upset my wife introduced him to our boys over Christmas. From what I know he is divorced, has a high school age daughter and paying hellish alimony………..He is also a ladies man which should be interesting since the STBE has started taking her animals with her to his house over the weekends. A little too much too fast even if she claims to have known him for years (so she says). My STBE does not so much ask, as she imposes in this regard. I’m positive he must be saying “Well, if I really love her I’ll do this for her. Camel’s nose under someone else’s tent…….Just wait buddy………………………………..

Her and I text message. Or should I say she text’s me about silly day to day goings on with our 16 year old son, even though I’m well plugged into his school, friends and such. I never respond to her or even acknowledge her effort. Which she NEVER did before. No phone calls during the day, text, email…..zippo. Now she’s my pen pal?

In the last month as all this stuff was going on in her sick mind (introductions and such + SO much more) I flew to Vail for Christmas and New Year. Drove to Boston for a long weekend, and am now out in Vagas hacking around. She text me that she was glad I was moving on with my life (then added AGAIN) that she had moved on with hers.
She has not “moved on.” She has moved across town like a 14 year old girl trying to prove something to her parents. At least that’s how it appears.

Rip the bandaid off quickly.