Also, not EVERY woman does this. One straight jackets does not fit all.
My wife is a teacher and working (even part time) could have worked perfectly to balance our time at work and her time with our children/with summers off. I just made too much sense.
When this topic (reality) came up shortly after our first son was born 19 years ago, she told me that if she did teach she would then “have to do it all.” Meaning, work, children, clean, cook………….Truth, I clean bathrooms, and at the time did almost all the cooking.
So, she stayed home and did what she “wanted.”
This is not the 1950’s! We needed the income, and it was insulting to blame me for being inflexible (I cook and clean bathrooms while I’m not working) and more insulting to unilaterally “choose” and dismiss all those facts because she thought she would have to do more………………….she demanded a rose garden.

No, there are plenty of hard working mothers and wives in the world and it was right under her nose. ALL HER SISTERS married slackers, and all of them work and take care of children, etc……they often lamented how they would like to pumpkin pick, go to the zoo and the park at will like their sister.