The STBE did not file an answer to my complaint for judgement. She actually waived her 45 day period so we had a court date on May 6th.
A week before that I started receiving some pretty long winded text messages from her. Not really messages, more like silly details about the kids activities…….something seemed “up.” In one text she asked me if I would be willing to talk over coffee or dinner (just her and I) because she wanted “to be open.” She assured me it was nothing bad, and that she was not looking for money. Oh brother!!!!!!
I gave it a day, but agreed to a public meeting.
She was there before I arrived (I am always prompt) and the conversation was really like a Seinfeld episode……nothing.
I did discover that she broke up with her lover because (Are you all sitting down?) “He was a control freak.” Seems he “took” her phone and was texting and calling me on it without her knowing it. Whatever the reason was, this poor bastard was taken for his own crazy house ride. He was chosen to save her and protect her from me who she calls “verbally abusive. Mentally unstable. Paranoid. and CONTROLLING…….”
Now, after all their abuse she appears to want to be friends again which is really not nessesary from my point of view. Again, she wants to be friends….then damn it, I better do so or suffer some consequences.

Now the corker. Could I please postpone the final hearing because she still hasn’t found a job, and the $550/ month COBRA payments are just out of her reach (forgot to mention the lump sum of cash I gave her, which like throughout our marriage is also considered out of bounds and “hers.”

She also has a medical situation she needs to resolve. Yes, she contracted an STD……….Jumping crickets!!!!!!!!! All those mental problems, and a scumbag as well. What a prize.
I would say nothing…..I was actually stunned. 5 hours later my attorney called me in a panic to say her attorney called her to say I was dismissing (not postponing) the hearing. Meaning push it out indefinitely………I blanched.

Dr Tarra……she has covered all the basis on this blog. She exhibits nearly all those traits.
Push on I will………

Hi
The call from my Attorney that my wife engage counsel was a shock. See, even until the end I held out hope she might see the light, get a job and toe the line. Denial at its finest.
She swung from one tree to the other BEFORE she engaged counsel, and like the story goes, found a guy willing to help her and coach her every step of the way with his penis.

As it turned out, this ape likes to read her text messages and emails when she’s not looking. (Maybe he went overboard with his advise) Or better, text foul language from her phone to me pretending to be her. Oh, and call me at work as well. . To her credit, she did recognize what she had done and broke up with the ape. Then out come the tears…….need I say more.

You seem relieved yet numb. Our youngest son (17) actually called his Mother out and pointed to how unfair it was for me breaking my hump every day only to get rewarded with this.
He told me that he admired me which means everything in the world to me.

May 6th is my final hearing. It was so cut and dry I submit an affidavit not to appear. What’s the point? Let her go if she wants to. She certainly has the time.

I won’t tell you that you did the right thing because even though you are filing, your guts are turning. I am also red hot angry at the whole 21 year story (some really good times mixed in). Its sort of helping me to the finish line.

Stay strong