tomg says
Thanks
As I said this is not the first time. When I bring up the previous times her reaction reminds me of a child that blames everyone else for their behavior. In these cases she is empowered through the insular Oprah world view of sexist generalizations and ignor any adult basis for reason and responsibility of their actions via DNA.
Being told I was being a “big baby” only flows one way. There are no visuals of a woman in a tee shirt drinking beer raising a hand to her husband and then blaming him for making her angry. Lets face it. If a man sports a black eye or a slinged arm the vast majority of people automatically assume he probably had it coming. If a woman presented with the same injuries that vast majority would push the sympathy button and pin the “pre-judgement O Meter.”
Truthfully, I do blame myself. I do have strong urges to apologise and calm the raging waters so it will never happen again. This man does not like to see my wife upset, and oddly I still fret that her pep talks with her therapist (who is not only divorced but who’s husband cheated on her) is mixing this bonding agent to keep this delusional story line intact.
I think it is just healthier for us to get away from one another. There are things in our relationship and in society that won’t permit me any benefit of the doubt. So why risk the exposure? Everyone, and I mean everyone says I should move on.
As I said this is not the first time. When I bring up the previous times her reaction reminds me of a child that blames everyone else for their behavior. In these cases she is empowered through the insular Oprah world view of sexist generalizations and ignor any adult basis for reason and responsibility of their actions via DNA.
Being told I was being a “big baby” only flows one way. There are no visuals of a woman in a tee shirt drinking beer raising a hand to her husband and then blaming him for making her angry. Lets face it. If a man sports a black eye or a slinged arm the vast majority of people automatically assume he probably had it coming. If a woman presented with the same injuries that vast majority would push the sympathy button and pin the “pre-judgement O Meter.”
Truthfully, I do blame myself. I do have strong urges to apologise and calm the raging waters so it will never happen again. This man does not like to see my wife upset, and oddly I still fret that her pep talks with her therapist (who is not only divorced but who’s husband cheated on her) is mixing this bonding agent to keep this delusional story line intact.
I think it is just healthier for us to get away from one another. There are things in our relationship and in society that won’t permit me any benefit of the doubt. So why risk the exposure? Everyone, and I mean everyone says I should move on.
shrink4men says
Go to the police station and file a report, tomg. Today.- I missed my opportunity. It’s been months now. I see my attorney monday to discuss options. I might get hosed with tuition into infinity + lifetime alimony.
I have a passport and can arrange to take care of everyone’s NEEDS. If she WANTS more, she can work or try and find me.
I’m done
