If so you can also relate to the same balancing act I played for years. Every day was a “lets just do whatever happens today” structure for her while I did what I was elected to do, make a living.
So many nights coming home to tails about a tough day at the puppet show and how the terrible 2’s got its name terrible I actually wondered what I was doing wrong or could do better. I get it. Wiping noses and asses all day is very hard work that typically does not start at 8 and end at 5 and have many if at all weekends off even if your under the weather. I have all the empathy in the world for what that’s like to endure, but when basics are not covered, clothes piled up, dishes etc. one has to question priorities.
In my case the more I took on the more time she had to watch her sister’s children. Yeah, you read it correctly. I took on the chores at home so she could take on chores at someone elses house…………..You may recall that when I was allowed to bring this up in marriage counseling she actually reached out and grabbed my leg and shook it yelling for me to shut up….The therapist was stunned, but to her discredit never explored that outburst. I suppose it was condoned?
She has also never worked outside of the home or otherwise make use of her teaching degree, rather she plunged herself into animal rescue and taunted me that I should also find a hobby. I thought a hobby was something you did to relax AFTER YOU WORKED? For the record, I work and really have no outlet. See, it’s even!
One more note concerning the Mayor of crazyland. She recently mowed two of our neighbors lawns while they were away and asked a third neighbor if she wanted her to maintain their property while they tried to sell their house. Yes, $25/ cut…….+ extras. To complete the picture, my property currently looks like South Viet Nam. I cut it last weekend…. I kid you not.
Anyway, my question was concerning repressed feelings.
Good luck
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