Watch two or three kids? Get onboard the Rationalization Express. Then when my wife took in two, she behavied as if it were something that kept our family going since I was portrayed as CHEAP. You got it! A cheapskate depriving her and the children….HOWEVER, all that money she made went into HER bank account. Ah yes!
I also love this woman with all my heart, but she makes my hair hurt trying to reason with crazy.
If your like me you will defer to her needs and wants and hope it makes her happy. IT WON’T.
I let her go what she wanted, and in the end I was accused of being emotionally not present for my children. I still haven’tfully removed that knife from my back.
My wife’s Dad died when she was 5 so she’s well grounded in her own imagination of what would have been. Most of us grew up with Dad’s who had a few warts, in her case her Dad was Ward Clever and Superman. Add to that her Mom had an abusive and absent Dad, and her Grandmother the same. This is a Social Worker’s dream. Take all that and add that my wife’s spiritual mentor is her lesbian Aunt who was supposidly raped as a young girl and blames everything on “the stars” and not herself.
I should have made a clean gettaway when I could.

On a bright note, I found a very nice house recently and know that financially I can carry all of it + the house I’m in. It would be like being divorced without lawyers and retainers. I have not tipped my hand yet, but did ask her to look at it. I had my realtor call her who is a freind of ours) and she asked a few questions, but expressed no interest in looking at it. One of the purposes would be to get my boys in a decent school system. We tried to move 10 years ago to that district, but again i was overruled.

Your not alone Jason

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