When I made those move in the accounts, I was labled as a controlling, manipulative abusive person. (I guess she had to say something v I just don’t want to work as long as this sucker puts up with it). So, mentally prepare because you will be cast aside as the evil doer.

My biggest WTF moment was two days before we had our oldest son removed from our home for drug, behavior and alcohol issues into a $150,000 rehab/boarding school in Utah.
She threatened to leave if i did not fork over the cash to get him into the program, but refused to talk about how I was going to pay for it. Sorry, she told me that I didn’t have to pay it all up front…..(I swear to God. With a straight face and all…)
So I caved in AGAIN. I was on the phone and email with the program directors and the transportation company who were essentially going to kidnap my 17 year old son when she took a cell phone call, made up some bullshit excuse about getting our youngest son, and drove off. Turns out she went out to complete a cat adoption…….I kept it together, called he and calmly demanded she get back home. She did, but I knew at that very second that this woman was mentally unstable and I just failed to recognize who this person really was. A certified science teacher who graduated with highest honors looks me in the eye and half ass tells me she will get a job in a supermarket. I was totally on my own, having major medical issues of my own that nearly cost me my job (still not out of the woods) and it sounded like she was actually challenging my breaking point. Little did I know about her boyfreind…..The rest is history. Point being, you start down that road and be prepared with a plan. Talk to any attorney and see what a divorce looks like for you. Have an escape plan….if anything it may keep you sane knowing there is one. Also, TELL NOBODY of this plan. One huge mistake I made was letting the cat out of the bag as a threat to get her shit together. She later used that as her reason to have an affair, blamed me for leaving her and the kids, plus the act of threatening her was proof positive that I was a verbally abusive man. (there is a fine line).
The last thing the professionals warned me about that i thought would never happened, was what I would do when she came crawling back. They told me to think carefully about that real possability. I didn’t, and when it happened I was very tempted to let water flow under the bridge….but I quickly saw it was all about her and money, so I put the peddle to the metal and got it over with. How? I asked her what had changed and she had no answer. None….Something about investing a lot of time and 20 years she sacrificed bringing up our two boys….bla bla bla…..that sealed the deal. The best thing is you are in no hurry. Take your time. Line up your ducks, and don’t feel guilty doing these things. Trust me, lawyers and judges don’t give a solid shit if you are working or not. You will pay, or go to jail.