Vince
My Wife and I never discussed if it made sense or not. She took her highest honors science teaching degree and decided to stay home and wipe noses and asses. Fast forward…..our boys are 17 and 15 and have managed their own hygiene for many years.
Both are in private schools now (our oldest is waiting to get into military school because he simply failed his Jr. year of high school, is smoking ample amounts of pot and drinking – plus girls girls girls). Yep, all that stay home Mom stuff is paying off in spades…..The most hurtful part echoed by her family is that I worked too much and was “not present” in his life. Shame on me for not quitting my job and staying home.
The literal kicker is that she and her family also lampoon my Wife’s Sister’s Husband for not working enough so they (meaning her Sister) can work less, take better vacations, and save for both college and retirement (I KID YOU NOT). All the stuff I’ve been doing for over 20 years ALONE. These are the same people who tell me that I worry too much about money and that if I just stop fretting I’ll realize (again, I shit you not) “That the money always seems to come.”
They are 100% right though, and I also know why. So nobody else has to worry about it. They also talk about trying to give them $10 or $20K to catch their breath…..Moral hazard anyone? Magic thinking at it’s finest brought to you by self entitled, unempathetic, selfish, self absorbed dunderheads. What do I do lately? I just stand still and keep the ink in my pen.
My problem was that I explained and defended myself every step of the way becasue I cared a whole lot about everyone. I’m not a tyrant, I just don’t rush into anything anymore or pay attention to the attendant silent treatment and stonewalling.

Good Luck