Oh my!!!! Get out as quickly as possible. I hung in with a LOSER for almost 22 years and all I have to show for it are several more years of work before I retire. The latest is my divorce will be final on the 29th. As of a week ago, I have been getting really nice, well thought out, kind emails from her dancing around the fact that as of Monday she has no job (yet), no health insurance, and nothing to fall back on to pay her 38% of our son’s tuitions. Ladies and Gents…..she’s screwed only for the fact that she still does not understand that she has the capacity to earn enough to actually have it made. She has a house debt free. A slug of cash in the bank (tax free payout of alimony), a nice 401K plan….and two cars. Again ALL DEBT FREE!!!!
I am dating a woman who’s husband was also a loser. Left her with a house leveraged with debt, credit cards, and a disabled daughter in need of good health benefits……He has not worked in 15 years. She is a school teacher making okay money who just can’t get her head around the fact that my STBX is not taking this all to seriously.
So today (48 hours before the final judgement) she flat out tells me she is “unsure” and that we should just postpone until we can “reexamine marriage.” WTF???????
Bottom line, I hold all the cards: The insurance card, the retirement card, the nondidtributable inherited trust fund (Ding Ding Ding!!!!) She also told me that now that she is paying her own car insurance, the carrier just informed her that all her speeding tickets has now qualified her for the “You are being dropped Club.” My insurance has been cut by 2/3rds because I observe rules…..Interesting. I wish her luck in growing the hell up and getting a life. She nearly ruined mine. Be strong.