Mike
Sorry for your health issues. I am also the bread winner in our family, and my soon to be ex graduated from a very good school with highest honors, and is a certified science teacher who did not work a day for the 22 years we are/were married.
I did EVERYTHING to help her get back to work, until it got so bad we really didn’t like one another very much because (do some soul searching) we did not share the same values.

We can write our little hearts out on this site, but the bottom line was I was WAY TOO NICE supporting her for all that time. The final insult was an affair she now blames me for creating because I was emotionally detached, and now her ex boyfriend for praying on her weakness I was told I created………Wrap your heads around that readers…..lol

Now that we are literally days away from the final court date, she has put on the charm campaign and regrets what happened, but will not apologize for anything……..I have a great attorney who got me a very fair deal, but she got a home (free and clear) $150K in cash, and half my retirement savings to buy out of lifetime alimony.

I pay over $1K/ month child support, and during our last “talk” she told me that I knew full well she could not run a house on that child support money…………I told her that she wasn’t supposed to and that the $50K we imputed as her income was for real. She now MUST work..ha ha ha . Meaning, shes responsible for a large percentage of the children’s tuitions, some medical, plus her own COBRA health benefits, which she is completely unable to pay for since she has not even attempted getting a job since we signed our marital settlement agreement……SO, this weekend she turned on the charm and flat out asked me to pay 100% of the children’s tuition for the next two years while she looks for a job……I reminded her she has had 22 years to do that, and that her work habits had nothing to do with me anymore (No longer my dog to walk…)

You have a tough one friend, but you have every right to feel hung out to dry, and with time it will only get worse. Sorry, but you have a lot of property and marital assets. Stop buying and investing and start soul searching.

GET OUT!