Hi all

Been awhile since i posted. My wife has filed for divorce three weeks ago after we had a heart to heart concerning the basis of our relationship. The word love did not come up at all, and when the word empathy was used, she flat out said she had none for me.

About three weeks ago, I had eight massive cluster seizures at work and was rushed to the ER at 1 in the afternoon. I had two more seizures in the hospital and for anyone who has had the pleasure of having a grand mal, it is very painful and disorienting.
I sat in the ER from 1pm until 11:30pm when my wife drove up and essentially gave me a ride home. Blood all over my ripped white dress shirt, caked blood on my face and hair and various cuts and scratches all over. I was a mess.

I guess she meant what she said about empathy………………A few days later and a few sexual encounters, she stiffens her spine and pursues the divorce talk in earnest. “I’m done!”

For all you following this, she then tells me “For once I am standing on my own two feet.” Okay, for those who have simply not switched off your PC’s, she was obviously referring to her emotional slavery she essentially volunteered for. It all came out. All the green slime. I am manipulative, abusive, so on and so forth……She then takes up sleeping in my sons room and closing the door at night. ??????

She wants to mediate the situation at first until my attorney calls me to inform me she has retained legal representation from one of the most expensive law firms in the county. This is how it works guys. The opposing attorneys first letter requests the the husband pay his wife’s retainer. Gulp! If the husband does not, the opposing side goes to court to have temporary support granted including legal fees AND the cost of the hearing. If such support is granted, you can be shit sure this will be the basis for future alimony. Its a wedge issue.

I have been completing a CIS (Case Information Statement) which essentially discloses all the family assets and liabilities and is the basis for making a settlement in uncontested cases. If the parties don’t agree, the wife will file for divorce claiming verbal and emotional abuse (this is my case). For people who are new, my wife has on several occasions, punched, kicked and pulled my hair in fits of rage. So now when I attempt to even discuss division of furniture, etc. she races away warning me that if I do not stop harrassing her, she will get me in BIG TROUBLE. Meaning a phony restraining order.

We will have a conference in possibly two weeks (I insisted on a face to face meeting and not a one off telephone conversations).

To ALL men out there who are not happy with the way things are and are married < 10 years. File and get out. In my state, after 10 years, the award is alimony "for life."
If you < then 10 year guys think it's going to get way better, wake the hell up and move on.

Stay tuned. I am relieved on may levels, but will not retire the way would have liked, even without the wife working one blessed day.