Thanks

That thought is very real. Frankly, I think it is also my wife’s plan as well. I don’t feel the love……I listen to all the Oprah top ten reasons, including verbal abuse (I guess explaining the facts of life is too much for her to process without getting uncomfortible).
I’m not present for my family. (this hurts the most…..I do what I am supposed to do and then must be responsible for everyone’s emotional needs as well?) You hit the nail on the head with your experience with your Mom. She is just out of touch and even a discussion on our goals and plans makes me feel unbalanced. She has no problems asking me what I am doing, and why. Yet when I inquire, I get answers such as “It’s none of your business….” Or worse, she says NOTHING.
Calling in an air strike on myself? You bet, but that is just part of our laws and culture. However, most of the people like me who moved on, all tell me the financial hits have been huge and the ongoing alimoney painful and unfair, but in the rear view mirror, was nessasary and worth it.
Every single counselor I or we have both seen together and alone agree that I have a hangup moving on and (as you said about your Mom) have childhood issues behind there embarrassingly and shameful behavior. He Dad died when she was 4 or 5 and that has SO messed up some of the children in that family. Her Mom had no Dad. Her Grandmother had no Dad….I’m 7 years older then my Wife….Ding Ding Ding…..I had a stable job and a bright future.

I’m getting upset rehasing, so I’ll just leave it alone. I am SO unhappy and uncomfortible being in my own home. I literally can’t stay too long in the same room, unless I engage her in conversation her cat business. then she lights up like a fire fly…..It’s pathetic!