Yes….It’s all a $hit sandwich for men to eat. I don’t know why I thought she was working….Your situation sounds terrible. It’s a “follow me to the bottom” senario. I would not count on any bounce from her when you eventually hit bottom. My wife thinks the “money will always come.” She also told me “that’s what family is for.” Who’s family?

I paid for my wedding because her parents are financial noodleheads. My parents and family are savers, professionals. I will NEVER beg my family for a dime, but being an artist on brinksmanship, she is trained herself to become silent, stand still, and getting what she wants anyway. Meaning, she knows I will do anything to keep our family afloat and then uses my resentment as a bat to beat me over the head. A bat I PAY FOR!

My family minds their own business, but see things clearly now. They all have said on one level or another that she is out of touch. I think it worth repeating that if the roles were reversed I would have been insititutionlized (sp) years ago. I can’t drink because of my seizure disorder, so my Doc. gave me Ativan as a seizure emergency source, but it also helps when I pull into my driveway or sleep once in awhile. Gotta do what I gotta do. My seizure triggers are stress and lack of sleep. This time last year I was down to 125 pounds (I’m 5 ft 6) and did’nt notice how bad i looked until somebody asked me if I had cancer.

She could give a rusty crap. I drive 1 hour each way to work and have pulled over too many times to recall. I made a transition in Meds. last year and was unable to drive for a month. Period.
She stepped up and voluntered to drive. Within a week she was telling me tuesdays and Thursdays were “tough” for her, so a very good freind helped me out for a month.

Regreting marriage? OH YEAH! If I could walk out my door and have no ties with her, I’d been gone long ago. So, I hang in there. When the kids are gone it is abundently clear she will take off and live on direct deposit in her account to live a well deserved very long and healthy life.

Be well