Looking back after almost a year after my divorce, there was not a specific day, or one specific incident. There were many signs before, during and now after. Now that I’m dating again I feel more literate to see them coming. There have been dating situations I can just sense do not make sense. At 54 the dating pool almost always involve “baggage” that present themselves is various degrees. Some involve complicated family commitments, codependent behavior, significant abandonment issues…..the pathologies seem endless, but I don’t bite the hook.