Hi

Yes, now being in the dating world, I see what the real world is for the vast majority of woman I have come to know. A few career teachers, a dentist and two woman who worked full time with significantly handicapped children with zero help from their ex husbands who were “men boys” drunks, lazy, or simply didn’t take their vows seriously.
I must be honest, if I were faced working full time with full responsibility for a sick or handicapped child would be well beyond what I feel I could cope with.
One woman I am seeing is a full time teaching assistant (15 years) who had to carry her husband’s addiction on her back and ignored completing her bachelors degree to become a certified art teacher….Meaning she makes less than half of what a teacher makes. She also cleaned houses, painted, taught private art classes until she sadly discovered that even steel breaks.
These stories are very raw reminders that the relationship I was in was very much one sided, selfish, and abusive. Even to this day, my ex behaves as if certain things I used to provide her are still her entitlement. God love her, she really has no idea she’s even doing it.

Yes, the real issue with me was the guilt, confusion, frustration I carried for years believing I was supposed to take care of my ex wife in a way I wouldn’t permit if my own children behaved the same way.