Thanks Frances

I have not been a decent guy to myself for awhile. I had a life before all this and for the most part I enjoyed my own company. There are days, and there are days…..Depending on what voices my wife is hearing that day, she can be engaging and somewhat fun to be around. the next minute or day she can be distant to the point where there is no possible way to notice otherwise. My sanity is often to just not engage. It’s empowering, but so darn lonely being married to an adversary. Example. She asks me a question on any topic. Frustrations, fears….you name it. She asks, I answer the best I can. She is often never inhibited or constrained to any topic, but i am (and she has said) at least I’m for the most part truthful.
If i ask a question she typically asks me the same question, ignores me, or brings up instances out of context where I may have said or done the same thing. A lot of times she leaves out the outcome of these past situations, ignoring the fact that she confronts me with the issues and I engage in answers. Frankly, not responding whatsoever is the worst followed by being asked the same question.
I spoke my story line with a professional awhile ago, and her comment was if i were angry at the outcome I really had every reason in the world to be.

Lets face it. My wife alone choose to stay home and not work. At the time the excuse i heard was “You will not share duties bringing up the kids and it will all fall back to me.” Well, I never promised anyone a rose garden. So, she basically told me that it would just be too hard.
Why not try it for awhile and then show me how it would have never worked out? She never ever gave it serious thought.

Thanks for your support!