Oh, seperating the accounts is good for your soul for a few weeks. Trust me, unless you are made of tempered steel, it won’t help. We can’t win peace unless we remove ourselves which requires certain and painful consequences.
You seem like a very sensitive caring guy. Some men can take a life of malicious unfulfilled needs. BTW: All the social workers say the same thing “take care of yourself.” If it were only that easy playing squash, taking up fishing, or watching NASCAR. Face it, we want a deep intimate relationship with somebody who meets your needs as well. Somebody we can do these things with, not take up to escape pain.
If it’s not clear to our wives yet, they have a plan of their own and it does not include us. “Hurrah for me and the hell with you.”